Saturday, January 14, 2017

A New House

Hi there. I'm back! It's been a long time. It's too overwhelming to go back and catch up, so I'll just fill in the blanks. We still live in New Mexico. Sean is still working at ProBuild. He is the Young Men's president. We added another little one to the family, Kamryn Bella. The kids have grown and are now going to a charter school, Estancia Valley Classical Academy, which we have been very happy with. We have another dog, Molly, and a different cat, Ebony....and we bought a house. We moved about 5 miles north of where we had been renting for the past 6 years. This is actually a pretty good story, so I wanted to record it for our family record. When we renewed our lease in November of 2015 the owner told us that we could do one more year lease and then he wanted to put the house on the market. He told us if we were interested in buying it he would be willing to give us a good deal - just to get rid of it. Anyway, we knew we had the better part of a year to figure things out: buy that house, find another house to buy, rent a different house, build ourselves, etc. Well, I just like to look around online here and to see what houses are going for in our area. In December I was just glancing around and noticed a house that seemed much cheaper than other houses similar in size. I was curious but didn't think too much about it. Thirty days later in January I noticed that the price had dropped $70 thousand in one fell swoop. I was looking at a 4,300 square foot house on 9 acres with a barn now listed at $290,000. We weren't even considering moving forward with anything yet, but after a few days this house would not leave my mind. I called Sean up and told him I was too curious and I called the realtor just to go look at it. Now, this was a foreclosure, so it wasn't clean, there was super shabby carpet, there were parts of the hard floor missing, there were some worn down adobe walls and there was an indoor pool room that was a third filled with dirt and serious project all on it's own. But there was some charm to the place, and a great layout and awesome property. I told Sean about it and the next day we sneaked over (without a realtor) to check it out. He had the same first impression as I did. We didn't want to jump into anything necessarily but there was something that kept pulling us to this house. About a week later we called the realtor and both went and saw it again together (officially, this time). We asked if there was a lot of traffic on the house, and he said there hadn't been much at all until the price dropped. We weren't even sure if we would qualify for lending and we knew that we wouldn't have a down payment or anything until Sean got him bonus in March, but after some more thought we decided to make an offer (this was in February). We low balled them at $240,000 knowing there would be some negotiations. They rejected the offer. So we offered $260,000. They counter offered at $275,000, which we agreed to. In the meantime we got in touch with a contact Sean got connected with and applied for financing. We were approved for this amount with a relatively low down payment. Since literally every single communication with the bank selling the house took at least a week, this whole process took almost a month. Once we agreed we were about to go into escrow. At the beginning of this process the bank has to divulge any known problems with the house. They gave us documents telling us the septic system had been redone just a few months prior (totally redone - which was great). They also gave us documents of a roof inspection and a roof bid. The whole roof needed to be redone (which we wondered about from the beginning) and the bid they had gotten came in at $25,000. Yikes! With the type of loan we were getting we knew they would require the roof to be in decent condition, which means we either would have to fork out $25,000 to get it fixed or they wouldn't lend to us at all. Neither option was great, so we went back to the bank and told them we couldn't go through with the offer. We had gone into this whole thing with the idea that if things work out, then things are supposed to work out, and if not then there is another plan for us. We prayed about it everyday and continued with this thought in mind. So after we pulled out of our offer there was a part of us that thought that was it. Everyday I drove near the house to take Austin to preschool and could see it on the hill, and each time I looked at it a little bit of disappointment filled my heart. A few weeks went by and Sean and I talked again and after looking into some other financing (similar to the other but specifically for fixer-uppers, which meant you could put up to $35,000 of repairs into your loan as long as it would appraise at the higher value) we got in touch with the realtor again and decided to put in an offer again. We low balled them at our same initial price as before. They counter offered this time at $254,000. We took it and this time signed into escrow and began the next stage. We were keeping this whole thing to ourselves too - we didn't tell anyone (not even our families) because there were still so many ways this could go south. It took the bank 6 weeks to get a broken water line fixed (and we couldn't get the house inspection done without the water). When we finally got the inspection done it came back even better than we hoped. The roof did need to be totally redone, and there was a small rodent situation (the house had been vacant for over a year in the East Mountains - we were surprised about that) and they noted some things that needed to be addressed but nothing that would prevent us from getting the lending. We looked into roof bids and were pretty disappointed when the first few came back well over $50,000. We finally got an old faithful tar and gravel bid right where we needed it. He said "I've seen all sorts of flat roof types come and go, but tar and gravel has been here through it all." We would have rather gone with a more updated type, but tar and gravel fit the bill. Things seemed to be going in the right direction. We had to extend the closing 3 different times (after the second time they started charging us a fee of $50/day) which was pretty annoying because their delay in the water pipe at the very beginning was what made us have to extend in the first place (the lending process can't fully go through until inspections are done), but when you're dealing with a bank you pretty much do what they want. Two weeks before closing (after the termite inspection) they came back requiring us to fix some outside beams that had dry rot (they did this on the word of the termite guy - Eesh). Because Sean had gotten to know the guy that was going to do our roof he was able to get that tacked onto the roof bid (which saved us from having to file new paperwork for a new company). Then just days before closing they came back again and said that the stucco had been marked "fair" on the inspection and the bank won't lend with that rating. We were at our wits end, and now after all these months (and now several hundreds of dollars) and our hearts now set on the house we knew we had to try anything we could do. We were discouraged because we didn't think we could add any more work to our improvement bid (it wasn't in the budget and it was close to the cap anyway). Sean called the inspector to ask what exactly needed to be done to the stucco to get it to the next rating. His first contact with the inspector did not leave him very hopeful - he was short and a little rude on the phone. He called back that afternoon and he and Sean struck up a conversation about the house, what we done so far, what our plans for it were, etc. In the end he said, "You know some of these ratings are more a matter of opinion, and it was getting dark when I was there. You know, I'll just change the rating." Sean and I were floored - we couldn't believe that was even possible. Our knees had become ragged from praying so much. And I also have to make a side note. During the past few months we had fallen a little behind in our tithing - not intentionally at all, but we went from paying with a check to the Bishop to doing it online earlier that year. And we had just forgotten a couple times because we were doing it different that we had been doing it for all the rest of our married life. We considered getting caught up all at once but we wanted to keep as much money in our account through this process as possible and so we made a plan to add a little bit to each of our future tithing payments until we caught up (just a couple months). And by the way, I actually don't think there is anything wrong with this - we weren't trying to wiggle out of paying it by any means (we both have strong testimonies of tithing). During the beam and then stucco fiasco I told Sean, "You know, let's just pay it all. Let's just get caught up." I had been praying and trying to think if there was anything in my power that we hadn't done that we could be doing and that thought came to me. The thought came to me to show the Lord where our priorities lie and that we would do all we could do and then if things didn't work out we would know it was because the Lord had a different plan for our family. Sean paid our tithing online. The next day was the day he spoke to the stucco guy. He changed the stucco rating on the inspection and loan process continued on. Now, we would have paid our tithing anyway, we would have caught up and continued to be full tithe payers, but in same way I believe that mattered. The windows of heaven were opened. We got our closing documents within the week. And now came the most stressful night of the entire last six months. We got the documents that showed an increase in the mortgage payments of $200/month plus the closing costs were about $9,000 more than we anticipated. We looked at those papers and started to pencil things out (most of that $9,000 was going to go into fixing up the house and we wondered if we would have funds to fix things up with that gone and with our monthly expenses getting much tighter). We didn't want to be house poor - have a big house but not be able to afford anything else. We worried and talked and cried and Sean finally called our realtor and left a message telling him we just didn't know if we were going to be able to make this work. Here we were 2 days before closing and thinking this was the end of the line. We were literally sick to our stomachs. We prayed and took a walk and talked things out. Brandon, our realtor, called back and talked things through with Sean. The next day we prayed some more and penciled things out again (we realized $3,000 of those closing costs could be reimbursed to us if they were for house repairs, we could also contest the property taxes because they were calculated for a house price twice as high as what we were paying, some of our other debts we knew we could pay when Sean got his bonus next year, and because we were going into this with a decent amount of equity from the get-go we knew we could refinance at a lower interest rate (although ours was already a great rate) and also get rid of PMI within a year). Our nerves had calmed, our emotions had gone down a notch and we realized that yes, we could do this. It might be tight for 6 months but we could make this work. And even if we decided it was too tight, we knew we could do the handful of repairs already budgeted and turn around and sell the house for a decent amount more that we paid. It was an investment worth taking. And we relied on our prayers from the get go - if it's supposed to work out, it will work out. We realized that didn't mean it wouldn't take a lot of work on our part and some sacrifice, but ultimately it worked out. We closed a few days later. And here we are 7 months later still making things work financially and SO, SO happy with the blessing of our new home. We closed July 29th and moved in the end of September. The move-in date was another blessing. We had our rental contract through October. We told the owner that we would be willing to be out earlier as long as we didn't have to pay the penalties for getting out of our lease early. Otherwise we would just take our time and slowly move at our own pace. Well, he originally told us to plan on staying through October, but then the first week in September he sent us an email that said if we still wanted to be out early we could and he wouldn't charge us for October. And, even though this pushed things up a bit, we were more than happy to save $1500 and get out early. So we now own a 4,300 square foot home on 9+ acres with 5 bedrooms and an office, 3 bathrooms, a laundry room, 2 living spaces, an newly remodeled kitchen (with 2 ovens and 2 stovetops), 3 kiva fireplaces, a regular fireplace, a giant wood stove and a pellet stove. The property has a barn with 2 enclosed stalls, 2 more open stalls and a tack room, a fenced horse field, a circle horse training center, a fire pit, a small fenced back yard, 2 patios, fully fenced property, lots of trees as well as a big open area. We live on a quiet, gated road. We love it. We have already done a bunch of projects (and there are plenty more to keep us busy for months to come). We have: *Laid tile in the master bathroom and closet *Laid saltillo tile in the guest bathroom and entry to the family room *Replaced a 50 square foot section of brick floor in the living room *Put down linoleum in the upstairs bathroom *Painted the ENTIRE inside of the house *Painted wood trim in the back of the house *Replaced the sliding glass door in the family room *Had new carpet put in in 5 rooms (paid someone to do this) *Replaced beams on one of the patios (paid someone to do this - we will do it ourselves on the other patio) *Stained the beams *Stained most of the dark wood trim in the house *Re-plastered an entire wall in the living room (paid someone to do this) *Replaced the roof and put in roof drains (paid someone to do this) *Filled in the pool with dirt *Re-plastered an entire wall and sections of 2 other walls in the pool room *Painted 3 walls in the pool room *Replaced the garbage disposal *Cleaned up and fixed a couple of the railroad tie walls in the fire pit area *Plus lots of handyman projects here and there We have been busy, busy, busy. We are trying to finish up the pool room so we can use that as a big game room. And then we want to tackle the outside stucco and then we will feel pretty content for a while.

Saturday, March 22, 2014

Soccer Boy

I heard Austin at the top of the stairs saying, "I play soccer. I play soccer." We were hanging out in the kitchen getting ready to start dinner and so we called everyone in. Austin came down the stairs completely decked out in Megan's soccer uniform, complete with shin guards and cleats. He was pretty pleased with himself.

Thursday, March 20, 2014

Black Light Run

We did another 5K race. The two oldest kids wanted to do it with us. Actually Nathan and Megan kept talking about wanting to run in the race with us the week before, but we told them we'd wait for a little shorter race for them. It was a night run, so we let the kids pick a couple of glow-in-the-dark accessories that they were selling there. Caelan ran with Dad, and Ben ran with me. Ben ran the entire way, except as we walked through one of the powder throwing sections (the first one we ran through but we didn't get any powder on us, so we went slower through the next one). Caelan and Sean finished just about 6 minutes after us. Both kids did great. We told the kids that they had to practice before the race, so the two weeks before we had a handful of family night runs where we jogged up and down our street. After the race we hung out at the music stage for a little while, and then we were ready to head home. Well, we grabbed some food first (and some gelato at Frost...YUM) and then headed home. Good times! We're looking forward to doing the Dirty Dash again this summer.

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Pinewood Derby

Our first official Pinewood Derby! Ben designed his car with Sean. Sean did the cutting and then had Ben do the sanding and painting, and he helped put the wheels on. Nathan got a car kit for Christmas, so Sean helped him make his own car too. Nathan decided on the style, but when I asked him if he was helping Dad with his car, he said, "No, I just want to play now." Nathan chose to do an army vehicle. Ben did a hot rod. Ben's car did well at the race. I think he was about 6th place overall.

Saturday, March 1, 2014

Seeing Baby Kaia

The kids had a few days off school and Sean had a couple of days of vacation from last year that he either had to use or lose, so we headed up to Utah to see our new neice/cousin, Baby Kaia. Sean got in some much-needed snow boarding with Chad and Sid (a buddy from BYU) and Chad's brother in law. I got lots of baby time with little Kaia. The kids loved hanging out with cousins as well as second cousins (the Boles' kids that live just around the corner). We spent an afternoon at Gardener Village perusing the little shops, feeding the ducks and picking out candies at the Sweet Shop. We had Sunday dinner with the Boles, Brooks and some of the Armantrouts. Since we traveled there on Valentine's Day, Sean made me a Valentine's treat a couple days later: homemade German Chocolate Cake. Super tasty!! Overall a fun little trip to see family.

Friday, February 28, 2014

Family Hiking

The weather has been beautiful lately. Actually this winter has been so mild (too mild, in fact...we need some snow!). Well, we had nothing going on one Saturday, so we decided to go hiking up off South 14. There are all sorts of great trails for both hiking and bike riding. We did a little 2+ mile hike. We did some geocaching on the trail as well. The kids hiked like champions. They loved the breaks when we were looking for a treasure and they could hike up on the rocks on the side of the trail. The boys found their special walking sticks and wanted to bring them home with us. Afterwards we went down into town for some dinner (despite our sweaty, dirty appearance).

Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Life as of late...

We got the kids signed up for the 4-H club here in town. They meet at the church once a month. We've been learning all about how 4-H works (tons of stuff I don't get yet), and the kids have enjoyed going to the meetings. This month they learned how to plant corn (tips and tricks) and then they made corn husk dolls. Megan is even a part of the club - she is a Cloverbud (the younger group). She traced her body this week and colored it in.
Sis. Mateski is the new Cubmaster in our ward. She is awesome! She makes the Pack Meetings so fun for the boys. This month they had a little getting-to-know-you activity, "I Mustache You A Question..." Each boy had to go and answer a few questions about themselves and then they chose a mustache to wear for the remainder of the night. Ben also received two arrowpoints at this pack meeting.
We're trying to get the dog and cat used to each other so we don't have to keep such a close eye on them. It's really Ally (the cat) that seems freaked out by the dog. Bruno doesn't seem to mind her very much. Sometimes she gets too close and then Bruno gets a little concerned, but mostly he doesn't seem to care too much about her. We've been bringing them in the room together and just watching how they interact. They get a little closer each time they're together.

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Geocaching

The weekend after New Years we had spent one too many days inside with all the sickness going through the house, so we wanted to go out and DO something. Sean though of going geocaching, so off we went. There are hundreds and hundreds of caches out in the East Mountains. We did one in a cave, we looked for one in an old abandoned ship right outside a ditch, we found a few up in trees, we found one under a rock, we found a few with treasures to take where we also left treasures behind (and several others with just a log to put our names in). Some were right off the road and others took a little hiking to get to. I think our total for the afternoon was 10. We had a blast "treasure hunting." We'll definitely have to do that more often.

Saturday, December 28, 2013

A Merry Little Chrristmas

Our Christmas was very calm and simple this year. We actually got hit with a nasty stomach flu starting on about the 20th. It swept through our house on a rampage hitting 7 out of 8 of us within 3-4 days (and then there were a couple of flair ups again a few days later). Luckily no one was throwing up Christmas Day, but we still weren't all back to normal. Even with that plus the busyness of December we still managed to get in all our Christmas traditions: baking and delivering goodies to friends, Christmas caroling, 12 Days of Christmas, reading Christmas stories, listening to lots of Christmas music, donating gifts/stocking to kids in need, seeing Christmas lights (we did this while we were on our trip at the end of November). We went to our ward Christmas party. This year the theme was A Night in Bethlehem. We all dressed up for that time period. Sean was one of the Wisemen for the nativity. They sang "We Three Kings", which many people mentioned was the highlight of the program. The whole gym was set up like a city marketplace. There were stations where we got our food (cheese, bread, olives, fruit, vegetables and treats of course), there was a clothing station, there were stations for kids to do games and make crafts. All of the stations required money (we got a bag of coins at the beginning of the night). It was great. We sang in our Sacrament Christmas program. I am the choir director, so I was leading the music. It turned out beautiful. We sang "Sing a Glad Noel," "Stars were Gleaming" (with a children's choir singing the first verse), "O Come, O Come Emmanuel," and "Peace, Peace, Peace" (where the congregation comes in to sing Silent Night at the end). The youth speaker (who was doing a great job) got sick right there at the podium. He actually told his mom earlier that day he wasn't feeling well. She said exactly what I would have said, "It's probably just your nerves".....whoops. But it was wonderful to sing and listen and feel the true meaning of Christmas. We did our regular Christmas Eve things: Ham dinner with fancy dishes, reading the account of the Savior's Birth, reading "Jabeez Dawz," getting in matching pajamas and taking a family picture, watching "The Muppet Christmas Carol" and then heading off to bed. The kids actually forgot to leave anything out for Santa. Luckily he helped himself to peppermint ice cream and left them a note about it :) The next morning we could hear the kids awake at just before 7. No one is allowed in the living room until the music comes on. Sean and I came down and got the music going which was immediately followed by the pounding of feet running down the stairs. Santa left Megan her very own pet kitty ("a dream come true" she said), Ben got his own tablet, Caelan got a desk, Nathan got a sled, Austin got trike. We opened presents (the kids all got gifts for each other throughout the month of December...with their own, earned money). Caelan got some jewelry kits, a gift certificate to get her ears pierced, a journal.... Ben got his Journal book (the book I put together for the Christmas after they turn 8 - a bound copy of their online journal), Legos, books... Nothing could top the kitten for Meg, but she also got a vanity set, a barbie, hair things, Littlest Pet Shop home.....Nathan got cars and a retractable raceway, his own real tools (he asked almost everyone we saw for the next week if they thought they were "real tools or fake." He was quite thrilled with these real tools). Austin got a car track too and a velcro ball game. Sean and I got a VitaMix (actually Sean got me one and his parents got one for both of us). We love it! Sean got a welding blanket for his smoker. We spent the rest of the day hanging around in our jammies playing with our new toys, watching movies, playing games, doing puzzles, etc. A perfect family celebration.

Monday, December 23, 2013

Sunday Best for Christmas

I wanted to get a picture of the whole family before church on the Sunday before Christmas, but I didn't quite have my act together enough to do it. I ended up bringing Ian and Austin home from church early (Ian had had a fever for two days). They both fell asleep on the ride home, so I sat in the car for about 45 minutes listening to Christmas music. Ian woke up first so we took a quick shot together. By the time the kids got home, Austin was in NO MOOD to take a picture, so I got a separate shot of him later when he was in a better mood. Sean had to take the youth around to deliver Christmas baskets immediately after dropping the kids off at home, so I didn't get a picture of him at all. Just know - he was looking sharp too:)

Saturday, November 9, 2013

Happy Birthday Miss Magoo

Megan turned 7 years old. My, how the time flies. We had a pretty simple little family birthday party. She chose a Little Mermaid cake, so we did an under-the-sea theme and found an Ariel to put on top. Turned out pretty cute. She was thrilled with her gifts (even the clothes elate this little girl). Megan is such a joy. She is so fun and spunky and social and loving. She can make friends with pretty much anyone (regardless of age, sex, personality, etc). She is a real hugger. This girl loves affection. Once she is your friend, you will know it: she'll hug you, sit on your lap, climb all over you, etc. Megan has really become a good reader this past year. She brings stacks of books to bed with her and reads. Once she's done reading she likes the lights all the way off in her room. She is a good student. She brings home good grades, but also her teacher tells me often what a wonderful classmate she is. She accepts and reaches out to new students, she helps kids that are struggling, she is very compassionate to anyone that is having a hard time. Megan is strong willed at home, but when she harnesses that will she does really great things. She is our cleaner (granted, she also is one of our biggest mess-makers, but at least she is good at cleaning it up). There are times when she'll decide she wants to clean and she'll go from room to room getting things done. She is an animal lover. She loves all types of animals. She's been asking me for a pet kitten since August. We think we might consider something like that for Christmas....we'll see. Megan isn't a picky eater. There are a few things she's not fond of: sweet potatoes in particular, but most things she'll try. She likes to sing, play barbies and ponies, do hair and nails, read, color, help me cook, swim, watch movies, etc. We love Meg to bits - she is such a joy in our home.

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

Mr. E-Sauce

E-Sauce: that's one of our nicknames for Ian. That as well as "E." He is our little thumb sucking dude. He'll take his binkie, but most of the time he plays with it. In fact, he does this funny trick where he sucks his binkie while he is sticking his tongue out the side of his mouth. It looks so funny. He loves to gnaw on it and chew it. Whenever I am wrapping him up in his blanket at night, he will immediately stick his thumb in his mouth. He'll also do it when he fussy and has dropped his binkie. I have always tried to steer my kids in a direction other than the thumb (which has always worked up until now), but Ian loves it....and I have to admit, it is one of my favorite things that he does, especially when he cuddles up on me while he is sucking his thumb. Precious! He is a good little baby. He likes to be with people, but he is pretty happy in his bouncy seat or sometimes we put him in the Exersaucer (which he sometimes will be content to play in for a while and other times he hates it immediately). He smiles and giggles. He is our little light weight. I couldn't believe he could fit into the little Tigger Halloween costume that Nathan and Austin wore for Halloween (because he was 5 months old wearing a 0-3 month costume). I haven't started solid foods yet, but I do occasionally give his tastes of soft things that I am eating, which so far he has been a big fan of.

Sunday, November 3, 2013

Soccer Season

Our Saturdays were sufficiently filled up with soccer games for about 8 weeks straight, but I have to admit I love it. I realize we won't have much free time on Saturdays for a couple of months each time I sign the kids up, but I so look forward to watching the games and seeing them improve. Nathan played for the first time this season as well as Megan. We have asked Megan in the past if she wanted to sign up and she has never seemed interested at all. Somewhere in the middle of Spring season she mentioned that maybe next time she would want to play. And she still had the desire when we signed up for Fall season. She was a total surprise to us. Our little girlie girl has some serious SCRAP to her. She got right in there scoring goals and going after the ball. Her coach said on multiple occasions that she was the most improved, especially since she was a first time player, and that she really listened to him when he gave direction (and then would do it). It was great to watch. I volunteered to be a referee and was assigned to be the ref for Megan's team, so I didn't get to do as much screaming and yelling as I would have like :) I had to be fair and impartial as the ref. This was super challenging on the first game when I was right there by all the action and Megan got the ball and started heading right towards the goal. Unfortunately it was the wrong goal...and I just didn't feel like I could yell out, "turn around Meg" right there on the field. Oh man. At least she scored again in the right goal to make up for it. HE HE HE. There were a couple of pretty intense games that I had to run, which wasn't really my favorite, but I definitely learned from them. Overall I enjoyed the experience. I think I'll probably do it again next season. Nathan had all sorts of fun playing. You could pretty much tell within the first two minutes of the game what kind of day this was going to be for him: he would either be gung-ho and aggressive about blocking and attacking the ball (and therefore score a few goals) or he would be kind of in his own little world and run along side the ball but not really have his heart into it. When he had his head in the game he was pretty good. He definitely has a good power kick. A couple of times he scored from his kick-off kick. Ben improved this season as well. He moved up to U-10, which means he started playing on the bigger field using goalies and off-side calls. As the season went on he was better about running hard through the whole game. He scored a couple of times (once on the last game of the season, along with a good assist too). He's not super aggressive with his possession of the ball but he plays hard and can run down the opponent. He loves it.